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Nine out of ten women who give up breastfeeding during the first six weeks stop before they want to. Often the cause is lack of support and information, and the attitude of fathers plays a major role, too.
Although one often hears women say they 'couldn't' breastfeed, you may be surprised to learn that less than 3 % of women are physically unable to do so. Breastfeeding is a new skill to learn, and your partner will need encouragement and reassurance.
Practical help is also extremely important. Some women may experience difficulties early on in breastfeeding, such as engorgement (extremely full breasts) or cracked and sore nipples. If you take the time to understand what could happen, and what can be done to prevent the problem and alleviate the symptoms in the meantime, your partner will really appreciate your help.
In the early days you may need to be on hand to fend off or organise well wishing visitors. Breastfeeding women feel thirstier, so ensure she has a glass of water near her when feeding, and encourage her to eat a balanced nutritious diet. By doing your fair share of the housework, your partner will be able to feed your baby in a relaxed atmosphere. If she is worried about breastfeeding in public, you can make sure she is not in full view of others and reassure her that she is doing well.
Maintaining intimacy is very important following the birth of a baby, even though it is not always easy even to manage some time alone together. A breastfeeding woman may very likely feel "touched-out" by the end of a long day, which is hardly surprising if she has been feeding frequently. However, this does not mean that she does not want to be touched or cuddled at all. She may just need a bit of time to switch roles.
Your support is invaluable in boosting your partner’s confidence and studies have shown that a mother is more likely to continue to breastfeed if she has the support of the baby's father. Let friends know that, in order for her to successfully breastfeed she will feed when the baby needs to be fed, possibly in front of them. As it is the most natural thing in the world they need to take it in their stride, and know that you will stand up for your partner's right to breastfeed.
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Further information:
Becoming a Father: How to Nurture and Enjoy your family - William Sears
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